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After a lot of trail and error, here's my unfiltered take. I resisted online dating until the very bitter end. I was never a very good dater to begin with, and the idea of someone judging me the way I judge a pair of shoes I'm debating online seemed chilling. But two years later, I was 40 and had exactly zero dates. So I ed up.

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How often has a male coworker said, explicitly or implicitly, "We should really hire a professional to do that To be trusted in your role in the outdoor industry, you have to work twice as hard as the males surrounding you and never make a mistake. My best friend and class 5 raft guide explains: "When male raft guides show up to row commercial trips for a company, they are automatically accepted until they make a heinous mistake. In the never-ending list of boxes to tick in life, I've never ticked anything other than "single," or the ever-dreaded "never been married.

Women have to work doubly hard to prove themselves worthy for admission to this outdoor Disneyland fraternity—for which they will never be reimbursed equally.

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It's the kind of cult everyone is in and no one understands why you wouldn't want to. There's a fat joke in there somewhere.

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I've got my fingers crossed for that at least — and in the meantime I'll continue my love affair with this amazing city and the incredible music scene. B end's version of girl meets boy is often played out under the veiled equality of the outdoor industry—where women are totally included, " as long as. Females, on the other hand, have to prove themselves first and if they make one mistake, no one will ever forget it.

I am a sleeper agent waiting for the shock waves from this unraveling to hit my bubbled community. February 08, News » Local News. She needs to be capable enough to pull her own weight—because men aren't going to do everything for her—because we are all equal, right?

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And Bend, well, Bend is cult city. Me: I watch movies for a living, think the sun is overrated, like about three people and am decidedly more Rubenesque than statuesque. My 30s felt like one long dinner party discussion about married life—really fucking boring. I miss being in love, but there's no hurry. The places you used to go together with the one you loved now seem haunted by the ghosts of a past life.

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Mostly stories innocently proclaiming how I would know when it was the "right" person or how I would change my mind when the right person came along or how it would be the last person I suspected and so I needed to remain open. Often, it's the place I feel safest—outside the conventions of life that seem to dull my senses. Mingling around meat markets like Seven and Astro grosses me out, so Fridays and Saturdays I'm more likely to rock out with my pockets out at the library or a coffee shop.

No matter which of the checkboxes above you can check as a single or attached person in Bend, odds are you've mentally got a blacked-out map of places to avoid. I was doubly surprised it was coming from a friend who openly used the word "feminist" to describe herself in This would prove to be one of the first times it would be clear I was "abnormal" for not wanting to be married. I don't feel sorry for myself, I'm just This is the longest I've been single for about a decade since I went from an amicable marriage into two long-term relationships, one after the next.

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In a post-industrial revolution dystopia, females are also subject to the paid one-third less rule. Parties become slightly more awkward when you run into that friend of a friend who you went on one lackluster date with. That marriage box is so demanding of being ticked, it fools even the most radical amongst us to think it's the only box one can tick over 30 and not lose your "cool" card—the biggest non-cult cult I have ever been around.

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Shall we go through the check list? When I state that because I am a woman I am automatically perceived to have certain limitations; my bros give me the 1,yard stare or get up and leave the conversation. If it isn't direct exclusion from the men's proverbial locker room, it's silently complicit exclusion. Reconnect with someone from high school who was intimidated by your goth girl look back in the day, but thinks you're hot now — Check.

I argue that not wanting to get married has kept me from certain dramas, like staying with men who were mean or boring. I thought it was the most horrific thing I'd ever heard. Remember, if you wear short shorts, even once—even when it's bloody hot—well, you asked for the attention, didn't you?

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I was a little taken aback by this declaration by the drug-addicted, twice-divorced, not-truly-successful-until comedian. Sorry, Mosby, but try living in Bend and trying to get over someone. I've never Tindered or Groundered, and most of the dates I've gone on from people I met online were from Myspace a decade ago.

To boot, because there is a scarcity of women in the outdoor community, your position as an object of sex is exacerbated. A Demogorgon in a world of kids with fireworks. We may not have met "the one" yet, but there are good odds if they aren't in Bend now, they will be soon. Look at all these copies of "Timecop" I have.

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If you thought mainstream Western society was built for boys workplace, bars, educational institutionstimes that by 1 million for the outdoor industry. I was often made to feel there was something wrong with me because I didn't want to be married, long before Marc Maron confirmed it. Thank you! I was Walking past a bridal shop, Lynn began to describe her perfect wedding. I'm a decent kisser and a good listener, but I'll never be graceful or textbook handsome; I'm much more of a Kevin Smith than a Kevin Bacon.

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When the outdoor industry, and dating at large, actually become open forums where women are believed when they talk about their experiences, my eagerness to enter the dating arena, and celebrate Valentine's Day, for that matter, will change. I love Bend and I've been here sincebut I think somewhere, when I wasn't looking, I slipped out of the Central Oregon demographic and started living in the upside-down.

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Since mostly everyone else is at a bar downtown, it doesn't really help me meet anyone I'm also in that weird zone where women my own age are either married with children, single with children, or not after a bearded film nerd who still re comics and collects DVDs of '80s and '90s action movies.

B eing single in your 40 S is a whole new world of single. But she needs to be chill enough to not use the word feminist or acknowledge micro aggressions or speak her mind. Return to the " as long as " clause. But on the plus side, you can discover new rad spots to hang out in Bend, as there's no shortage of places to regain your strength and meet someone new.

We depend on your support to help fund our coverage. It likely struck me in such a heavy way, because, even this man, who clearly had lived a life somewhere far outside the "box," was still preaching a patriarchal value that anyone unmarried by 40 was a deviant.

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With new people moving to Bend all the time, it gives us, the perpetually single, a little hope. Support local, independent media with a small monthly or one time contribution.

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My gender cohort and best friend describes the " as long as " clause nicely, saying, " As long as you're cute, but not too cute. I'm not going to lie: being single in Bend can be really fun, but living and dating in such a small town has disadvantages as well.

Give me the carrot already! As an artist, it's not hard to be an outsider. Being single in Bend is like living in a fish bowl where I'm the glass all the sexy, mingling fish are looking through. I'm what my grandma would call peculiar. I have a few crushes and there's a woman I really like but am way too shy to speak to, so I think I'll just enjoy this time to play with my cat, read the books I missed from last year and try not to be hurt when I get ghosted three or four times in a row.

Instead, I'll wait until someone sees me and chooses me anyway, looking past all my weird and random eccentricities and decides I'm worth it. I'm bad at this. As the token, perpetually single girl in my band of sisters, I have plenty of experience being single in Bend.

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Meanwhile, ubiquitous acceptance of males skinny dipping mid-day or relieving their bladders in plain view. I totally am. I don't feel the sands in the hourglass slipping away. I am not a typical Bendite —athletic, outdoorsy, socially outgoing and extraordinarily good looking.

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I remember the first time I realized I never wanted to be married. Do you remember the episode of "How I Met Your Mother," when Ted seems totally fine after getting left at the altar by Stella, but then busts out the map of Manhattan with all of the blacked out potential places he could run into her?

I don't know how to meet women anymore.

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