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As online dating becomes increasingly pervasive, the old costs of a short-term mating strategy will give way to new ones. His friends were jealous. Whatever the flaws in their relationship, he told himself, being with her was better than being single in Portland again. It only changes the process of discovery.

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He likes the pharmacist most. At the same time, however, the reality that having too many options makes us less content with whatever option we choose is a well-documented phenomenon. The positive aspects of online dating are clear: the Internet makes it easier for single people to meet other single people with whom they might be compatible, raising the bar for what they consider a good relationship.

Add to that the effect of online dating. A permanently paired-off dater, after all, means a lost revenue stream. Almost immediately, he was surprised by the difficulty he had meeting women. Others enjoy barhopping. People always said that the need for stability would keep commitment alive. Some like going to basketball games and concerts with him. You find a flatmate. He slept with three of them on the first or second date. Now in his early 30s, Jacob felt he had no idea how to make a relationship work. The goal has always been to make it faster. You network for a job. Popular Latest.

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Social scientists say that all sexual strategies carry costs, whether risk to reputation promiscuity or foreclosed alternatives commitment. Psychologists who study relationships say that three ingredients generally determine the strength of commitment: overall satisfaction with the relationship; the investment one has put into it time and effort, shared experiences and emotions, etc. First, familiarity is established during the messaging process, which also often involves a phone call.

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It was sleeker, faster, more efficient. After six weeks, Jacob met a year-old named Rachel, whose youth and good looks he says reinvigorated him. At what point does this learning curve become an excuse for not putting in the effort to make a relationship last?

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Did online dating change my perception of permanence? And he thinks, Oh my God. While out with one woman, he has to silence text messages coming in from others. His relationships with the other two are headed toward physical intimacy. Around this time, he ed up for two online dating sites: Match. S ince Rachel left himJacob has met lots of women online. Jacob was single for two years and then, at 26, began dating a slightly older woman who soon moved in with him.

Indeed, the profit models of many online-dating sites are at cross-purposes with clients who are trying to develop long-term commitments. By the time two people meet face-to-face, they already have a level of intimacy.

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After two years, when Rachel informed Jacob that she was moving out, he logged on to Match. After going to college on the East Coast and spending a few years bouncing around, Jacob moved back to his native Oregon, settling in Portland.

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Having lived in New York and the Boston area, he was accustomed to ready-made social scenes. They spend the evening together, and never speak again. Both names have been changed for anonymity.

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The problem is that she wants to take things slow on the physical side. But research elsewhere has found that people are less satisfied when choosing from a larger group: in one study, for example, subjects who selected a chocolate from an array of six options believed it tasted better than those who selected the same chocolate from an array of Online dating is, at its core, a litany of alternatives.

Also, Jacob has noticed that, over time, he feels less excitement before each new date. The same thing will happen with meeting. Of course, no one knows exactly how many partnerships are undermined by the allure of the Internet dating pool.

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Was compatibility something that could be learned? Two of the three—satisfaction and quality of alternatives—could be directly affected by the larger mating pool that the Internet offers. Alex Mehr, a co-founder of the dating site Zoosk, is the only executive I interviewed who disagrees with the prevailing view. His relationships tended to drag on. But what if online dating makes it too easy to meet someone new? Gilbert Feibleman, a divorce attorney and member of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, argues that the phenomenon extends beyond dating sites to the Internet more generally.

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Relationships that begin online, Jacob finds, move quickly. Second, people who are in marriages that are either bad or average might be at increased risk of divorce, because of increased access to new partners. What if it raises the bar for a good relationship too high? Before long, his new relationship fell into that familiar pattern. But most of the online-dating-company executives I interviewed while writing my new book, Love in the Time of Algorithmsagreed with what research appears to suggest: the rise of online dating will mean an overall decrease in commitment.

Past girlfriends had complained about his lifestyle, which emphasized watching sports and going to concerts and bars. When I sensed the breakup coming, I was okay with it. Another online-dating exec hypothesized an inverse correlation between commitment and the efficiency of technology.

People seeking commitment—particularly women—have developed strategies to detect deception and guard against it.

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But there were other issues. As a result, they are more likely to make careless decisions than they would be if they had fewer options, and this potentially le to less compatible matches.

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He s her. That feels like a useful process. He was passive in their arguments, hoping to avoid confrontation. As we become more secure and confident in our ability to find someone else, usually someone better, monogamy and the old thinking about commitment will be challenged very harshly. No doubt. Occasionally, he has an acquaintance in common with a woman he meets online, but by and large she comes from a different social pool.

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Gender, too, may play a role. On the other, evidence is pretty solid that having a stable romantic partner means all kinds of health and wellness benefits.

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No studies in the romantic sphere have looked at precisely how the range of choices affects overall satisfaction. What if the prospect of finding an ever-more-compatible mate with the click of a mouse means a future of relationship instability, in which we keep chasing the elusive rabbit around the dating track? Would permanence simply happen, or would he have to choose it?

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Jacob also felt pressure from his parents, who were getting anxious to see him paired off for good. And the population of online daters in Portland seemed to have tripled. His old profile was still up. But the pace of technology is upending these rules and assumptions. I was eager to see what else was out there. Surely personality will play a role in the way anyone behaves in the realm of online dating, particularly when it comes to commitment and promiscuity.

All of a sudden I was going out with one or two very pretty, ambitious women a week. Their wives get tired of befriending his latest girlfriend only to see her go when he moves on to someone else. You know what to do with women, how to treat them and talk to them. Was this The One? They dated for a few months, and then she moved in.

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At first I just thought it was some kind of weird lucky streak. But today, more people have had failed relationships, recovered, moved on, and found happiness. But something was different this time. They realize that that happiness, in many ways, depends on having had the failures. She seemed independent and low-maintenance, important traits for Jacob. She was from a blue-collar military background; he came from doctors.

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And evidence shows that the perception that one has appealing alternatives to a current romantic partner is a strong predictor of low commitment to that partner.